You’ve made it through the first 8 weeks. How do you feel? I’m guessing that you aren’t as far along as you wish you were. Which is totally normal. This journey isn’t easy.
Habits are a b!@#ch
If I know anything it is that right now you have probably started to see some of the things that are holding you back. You’ve started to recognize patterns and behaviors that are keeping you stuck. Breaking habits isn’t rocket science but it can feel like riding a bull. You keep getting on and you feel like you’ve got it this time and then all of a sudden you’re on the ground, choking on dust. How did that happen?
Change happens when the negatives outweigh the positives in term of value in our lives.
Many times we fall back on out comfortable habits because we aren't truly invested in change. This happens for two reasons.
The first reason.
We don’t believe the change we want is possible.
More often than not we can’t see the change happening. We see where we are right now and have a hard time imaging in detail what reaching our goal feels like. Taking time to visualize yourself when you reach your goal can help with this.
It might sound like mumbo jumbo but high level professional athletes use this technique. Studies have shown that visualization plus training nearly doubles an athletes chances of better performance than training alone. One cannot argue with the results.
You can use this technique to train yourself to perform at your personal best, not only with your health goal, but with any goal that you have for yourself. You can use visualization to change the behaviors that you want to change in every part of your life.
How it works:
Imagine your goal in as much detail as possible. Imagine yourself sliding into that outfit that you wish you could wear right now. Image how it feels. How that fabric hangs on your body. Imagine how it feels to walk in it, sit in it. Imagine you it will feel to be at this weekends party or at the beach with you new suit on.
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The second thing.
You can’t picture what it looks like to do something different.
This is a lot like the first thing. You have a habit that you know is sabatoging your weight loss and health goals. But you keep diving in every time the opportunity presents itself.
The top 3 things my clients struggle with:
- Cleaning their plate even when they are full.
- Mindless eating of sweet or salty snacks.
I am guessing that you struggle with one of these too!
Visualization helps you to imagine what it would look like if you did something different.
For example: Attending a social event without drinking.
I arrive at the party and I have decided to abstain from alcohol.
Imagine each obstacle that you might encounter in vivid detail.
I know as soon as I walk in the door my friend Kali is going to offer me a cocktail. Play out all the details, down to what you will say and how your friend might react how you will respond in turn. What will happen when you continue to decline the offer for a cocktail?
What will you be drinking instead? Is it a mixed drink that is non-alcoholic? Is it sparkling water with a squeeze of lime? Will you ask the bar tender to slip you a mocktail on the sly so that no one asks questions? Really think about every single detail.
Imagine every single detail of the night out to the very end.
How will you feel when you leave the party sober. How will you feel when you have put your health goals above the immediate gratification of your habit? How will it feel when you can fit into that pair of jeans that you have in the back of your closet. How will it feel when people start to ask you, have you been working out? You look amazing. Or what have you been doing? You look like you’ve lost weight. What’s your secret?
You Look Fabulous
Download your super fun worksheet and start changing your habits for good!
Don't skip this step! You already know that change requires some work. So do the work! This worksheet will help you start to build a visual script in your mind about what real change looks like. You've already seen this in action when you remember a small piece of advice and that little voice in your head tells you that you probably should be doing something.
Doing the work here will help to strengthen the cognitive pull of better habits.